Single and happy...It's possible.

My Journey (Part 2)

I would love to tell you that once I figured out something had to change, that I immediately fixed it. I didn't. It was a process. It all began with taking a class or two at church.

The classes were a good start for a couple of reasons. I was able to meet people, study the word of God and grow in a lot of areas. In addition to that, there were assignments. So, it gave me something constructive to occupied my time. Time I might otherwise spend on dating sites, social media, or just watching television went to feeding my spiritual side. Change began to take place.

I took classes based off books like, Shelter of God Promises, Anxious for Nothing, A woman after God's own heart. (I would highly encourage that you pick up a copy of either or all of these books.) They were instrumental in reshaping my thought process. I was reminded of who God is and how He loves and cares for me. That in turn made me want to be better for Him. I desired to be a woman after His own heart. But what was I doing to be that? Nothing really. Church on Sunday, occasional bible study and that was it. No relationship can be developed and strengthen with that short amount of time.

But, my actions and words revealed to me that I was willing to spend time, energy, resources, for any man that seemed to fit the qualifications of a husband. A man on earth would get more of me than my Heavenly Father. I was convicted by that. I thought that was whack. So I uttered these words..."I don't want to have a better relationship with a man on this earth than I do with you. Don't send me anyone until I get this right."

Now, did I know it would be nine years...no! Do I still stand by those words. YEP!

Connection time!! Here are few questions to ponder on:

How much time and energy to put into finding a mate? (be honest)

Do you purposely engage or participate in activities only because you feel you might meet someone?

If you were in a relationship, how much time and effort would you put into it? Do you put the same effort or more into your relationship with God?